Over the next few days, I am going to share with you 5 lessons I learned during my 18-month recovery after a horrible car accident I had in the winter of 2014.
The Lord used that car accident to get my focus to be on HIM, ground my beliefs in the truth of HIS Word, and learn how to replace stress & guilt with peace, joy, & purpose.
You will get to hear much more of my story over the next 5 days but I pray that over these next few days YOU can begin to release guilt, shame, & stress and start to replace it with peace, joy, & purpose.
I pray these posts bless you and that you’ll begin to see a piece of yourself in my story. And with that, you will come away knowing YOU ARE NOT ALONE on this journey and that THERE IS HOPE!
I look forward to walking alongside you over the next few days.
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STEP 1: RELEASE MOMMA GUILT BY TAKING AN HONEST LOOK AT YOUR IDENTITY.
My life changed dramatically 7 years ago.
You see, I had misplaced my identity all my life, even into motherhood. All of my insecurities and past hurts would constantly cloud my view of myself.
Until 7 years ago that is. That is when I managed to take my first steps in taking an honest look at my identity and where I was misplacing it.
But this didn’t come by choice…in fact, I didn’t even realize I needed to do this. It was all due to God using a terrible car accident as the catalyst.
It was an accident that left me injured, on and off bed rest, and unable to do ANY of my usual tasks. I was 14 weeks pregnant and had 2 other kiddos under 5 so that was a LOT on my plate.
This accident wrecked my world and changed my life forever.
Up to this point in my life, I had only ever based my identity on different labels… student, sister, daughter, wife, mom, friend, Christian (you get the point) and I wrongly measured my VALUE on how well I was performing in these said labels. Not surprisingly I lived with lots of shame, guilt, and an intense internal pressure to get it ALL right.
So when I was stuck in bed after my accident and I could not do ANYTHING that I normally would do, I experienced an identity crisis.
During my many hours alone I asked myself…
Who am I? Who is the real Me? Where do I belong? Why am I even here?
Have You Ever Asked Yourself Any Of Those Questions?
What I began to realize was that I had no identity other than that which other people gave me or that I had given myself. This was a BIG problem because I wasn’t currently able to be that person AT ALL. So then, what did that mean for my identity? It meant I did not have a REAL one…
That was a sobering realization!
Then the Lord began to show me that I needed to find my identity in HIM. I need to filter ALL things through who Christ says I am.
Ephesians 1 tells us that we have been blessed with every spiritual blessing and we have been chosen, adopted, redeemed, unconditionally loved, accepted, and because of Christ we are pure, blameless, and forgiven.
THAT IS WHO I AM… THAT IS WHO YOU ARE!
Lesson #1 for you to begin to release momma guilt is this…
“Find your identity in Christ alone.”
To begin to do this, dig into the Word today (Ephesians is a great place to start) and pray for the Holy Spirit to speak straight to your heart. This will give you a better picture of who God really says you are. Side Note: The Holy Spirit will ONLY speak the truth! He will never tell you you are something that goes against His Word & Truth.
Spend today filtering out the noise of the world, the enemy, and the clutter inside your own head telling you all these things you are NOT. Focus ONLY on who you are in Christ alone and listen to who He says you are… that is the ONLY voice that matters!
When you do this you can begin to see the answers to the questions: Who am I? Who is the real Me? Where do I belong? Why am I even here?
And as a beautiful bonus…
… you start to see that your VALUE is not scaled based on what effort you were or were not able to put into any given day. God’s LOVE for you is unconditional and you have VALUE to Him (and to others) just by being YOU.
You are on your way friend… soon shame and guilt won’t be a constant companion.
Tomorrow we’re going to talk about what you need to do after you’ve taken an honest look at your identity… can’t wait to see you there.
TTFN (ta ta for now),
PS: Need more help with finding your identity in Christ alone… pop an emoji in the comments or shoot me a DM.
Catch up on the other challenge days
- Day 2: Make a CHOICE
- Day 3: It’s time to get quiet and LISTEN
- Day 4: Take a moment to UNDERSTAND self-love vs self-care
- Day 5: Evaluate your PRIORITIES